When people meet someone with a strong personality, they don’t realize what kind of person they are dealing with.
Some people think you are dominant. Some think you are rude. But none of this is true. These words don’t really reflect your personality at all. In fact, strong people are often kittens inside. People who are just domineering just give you a bad rep.
Strong people don’t necessarily win, they just don’t want others to walk over them on the outside.
Of course, some people may be afraid of you. But that’s because you don’t understand how comfortable you are with yourself because you don’t need to be validated by someone else.
Here are eight signs of a strong personality that can scare some people away.
You don’t make excuses
Strong personalities don’t make excuses. When you have a strong personality, you don’t like hearing people waste time whining about what you can do. You prefer to focus on what you can do, how you can overcome obstacles and do more.
Don’t question yourself for not being able to come up with a reason. There may be many reasons why you can’t do something, but there are many reasons why you should.
You are careful who you let into your life
As a strong person, you don’t rely on others to define who you are, what you are, and what you can do. You understand that some people need to do this to make themselves better. You also understand that some people need to hear these things to feel whole.
You don’t really know who you are yet, but you know you don’t need a boyfriend, girlfriend, boss, best friend, or family member to tell you what you’re capable of. You can find out for yourself.
You hate small talk
Small talk is terrible. If you have a strong personality, you have a lot of ideas. You don’t want to waste your time talking about people when you can change the world.
You cannot tolerate insensitivity, stupidity, and ignorance
Dominant behavior comes from lack of influence and knowledge. A strong character is the result of thinking things through and knowing them well. There is a huge difference between the two.
You’ve taken the time and effort to use your brain for good, and people hate to jump to conclusions about things they know nothing about. This may be your best quality, but not because you can use your knowledge to influence people. Because you can use it to encourage people to think about what they say before it comes out of their mouth.
You know how to listen
People with strong personalities know how to listen. You might think people would appreciate that. But the truth is, listening and encouraging can be really scary to people who aren’t used to it.
You don’t need attention
Having this personality means you don’t need attention. Most people you meet think you’re successful at it, but that’s not true. It’s just your personality that attracts people. The amount of socializing you do is not because you want to, but because you need people like you around you.
Even with that understanding, you still need time to recharge. Don’t be afraid to take it. Taking care of yourself is just as important as taking care of others.