Psychologists’ Advice Never Say These 5 Phrases to Your Children

Our children absorb every word we say and every action we take affects their adulthood. Their brains are still developing, and they have about 15,000 synapses, twice as many as the adult brain.

How parents talk to their children is how children talk to themselves. How parents treat their children affects how they see themselves, and if a parent is angry and critical, the child will become angry and hard on himself.

How we treat ourselves affects our confidence and our attitude towards mistakes.

Because of all this, we need to be more patient with our children. Being a parent is one of the hardest, but best jobs in life, and it’s your responsibility to make your children better people and teach them to love themselves and the world around them.

The main thing is to show them, love. Then remember that they will make mistakes as children, so even if you try to scold them, you should still love and appreciate them. You should be warm and kind when talking to them.

Also, make sure that expressions of love are obvious, as parental love is not always noticeable.

Here are five phrases you should never say to your child.

“Big boys/girls are never afraid!”
This is so untrue and you know it. However, telling them makes you afraid to express your feelings to your children. You need to support your children and explain to them that they have nothing to fear because they are safe and secure.

“You’re not as pretty/good/smart as you should be!”
This is a huge mistake because you will make your children feel insecure and they will feel that they are not good enough. But you should teach your children to love themselves.

“Stop crying now!”
We all have the right to express how we feel, so if they want to cry, let them cry without yelling at them. Instead, ask them why they are sad and give them a hug.

“Why is it so hard to do _?”
If you ask this, your child will feel inadequate and unable to do something properly. But teach your children how to do it.

“I can’t believe you did that!”
It is very selfish to want to make your child feel bad because you are disappointed. However, you need to tell your child what is wrong and why.

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